How do you define what it takes to be a good friend? Are you a good friend? I like to believe I am a good friend. Over time my definition of friendship improved. Originally, my needs in friendship were superficial, the number of friends, invitations, photo opps and stories we shared. As I matured, my needs in friendship shifted to understanding, accountability, role models, those family-oriented and reliable.
When I took inventory of the friendships in my past, I worked harder on maintaining them than benefiting from the relationship. I gave of myself at a time when I was depleted emotionally. If a true friend saw your ship sinking wouldn’t they offer a life saver or a seat on their boat? In my quest to remain afloat I had to drop luggage off my boat that didn’t belong to me.
The friendships that survived the storms of my life are who I need. They are trustworthy, compassionate, empowering and family oriented. My friendships today are essential as a part of my family. The superficial friendships of my past were placeholders. With healthier friends in my life there aren’t any demands for maintenance. I found myself less exhausted and more replenished. I would like to believe as the years pass my friendships will become even more beautiful. What are your thoughts? Any changes you need to make concerning your friendships?
-Dr. Kennedy